Sunday has rolled around again, my loves. This week was a little slower for me, but that’s a good thing. That means my time was well-managed! I got so much done that I was able to go to bed at decent times! Woo-hoo! Gratitude for this week Something funny that happened this week…on my regular evening walk/run (it’s mostly a walk, I’m not gonna lie), I cracked up. Each of the neighborhoods in my area have big brick walls and some bougie ass name on it to announce that you’ve arrived at “Fakename Kensington Place” or something to that effect. I’m just walking along, minding my own ...
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Coping with Holiday Despair
As soon as Halloween jack-o-lanterns and Freddy Kreuger costumes reappear and fade away, retail stores whip out giant inflatable Santas, orange, brown, and red turkey decorations, and cornucopias. Kids are making those hand-drawn turkeys in school and wearing construction paper pilgrim hats. The leaves are gone, and snow might be on the ground (except in most of the South). For most, these sights bring a small rush of, “Yes! It’s the holidays!!!” For others, myself and millions of retail workers included, it’s a feeling of dread. “Crap, it’s the holidays.” The time that’s supposed to be ...
Starting The Month With Gratitude
Wow, it’s November! Look at this, 2020 is almost over thank goodness! I think all of us are going to breathe a collective sigh of relief on December 31st. This week has been a weird one for me. I had been feeling really tired lately, and then noticed that my jellyfish infection had come back. That thing is out of control, lol. I’ve gone to the doctor, but it seems as though it’s spreading again, so that’s why I haven’t really been updating anything but Twitter. My bad! I’m also apologizing for this post coming so much later in the day. It’s the jellyfish’s fault, not mine! My immune system may ...
Finding Closure: What I Learned From Loving an Avoidant Man
It’s been exactly a year since I began my healing journey. It's been a long ride with lots of twists, turns, and growth, and guess what? I am excited to introduce you to the final pages of the Traumatic Breakup chapter of my story! I can write this from a place of forgiveness and acceptance because I was able to truly move on. The traumatic aspect of the breakup At the end of our relationship, I blamed myself. I have an incredibly big heart, and I gave every ounce of love, respect, and kindness I had to my ex. If you’d read my journals through those three years, even if I was mad at him, ...
It’s been a year since my trauma
I wrote an open letter to my trauma anniversaries. I’ve done a lot of growing and inner work in the last year. Thankfully, I am a better and stronger person now. To my trauma anniversaries, Each month of every year, I am paralyzed by you. The anniversaries have stacked up quite a bit over the last thirty years. Every few weeks, a new anniversary creeps from its hiding place in my mind, down my central nervous system, and has life breathed into it again. Many times, I don’t know what it is that has me anxious, angry, and depressed until I look at a calendar. When I put two and two ...
I Hit the Point of No Return
Earlier in the summer, I woke up with glee because I thought I had moved on from my previous relationship. It was my first time waking up and going to bed without thinking about my ex. I was focused on my books, my plans for my blogs, and my dreams of future goals. It was an exhilarating moment. What I didn’t know is that there are levels to moving on: First, there’s the stage that I was excited to be in earlier this summer.We can call that the beginning to move on. You’re feeling good, thinking about other things, entertaining the idea of casual dating.Then there’s the “Hm, maybe we can ...
